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Psychological consequences of children’s whose parents work abroad

A study from 2007 shows that 36% of children whose parents are working abroad feel alone and 20% believe that no one loves them. 30% of them are depressed.

Separation Anxiety and the impact on children

According to the Ministry of Labour in 2012, about 59 724 families, in which the 83 658 children have at least one member who went to work abroad, and 23,924 children in 16,550 families have left home without any of the parents. The desire to make parents to return home leads children to attempted suicide – but usually – those are extreme cases. Longing to parents is manifested by depression, loneliness, feelings of helplessness and lack of affection. Regarding the impact on health, young school children and adolescents experiencing physical separation. Children are fed incorrectly, being tormented by stomach diseases, cure migraine with or even diabetes. In addition, they are likely to get sick of various diseases, and they go to the doctor just in case of emergency.

At the social level, the impact of migration is reflected in the risk of these children to be abused emotionally, physically and sexually, and to be exploited by work. Children become aggressive not only verbal, but also physical, become very violent. Such children are not able to create some friendships with peers.

In addition, many children whose parents are working abroad, have a deviant behavior, they begin to smoke, take drugs, steal, to drop out of school, running away, and all this in order to bring parents back. Such children end up not respect the values ​​obtained at school, seeing their parents, people with a university degree, get to earn a living from picking strawberries. Most times the education of children from such families is attributable to teachers or grandparents, but as the number of migrants is increasing, training these children becomes an increasingly heavy burden on teachers. Regarding the elderly in the care of children who are migrants, their impact is reflected by physical and mental exhaustion.

Solutions

Labour migration can not be controlled, but the left consequences can be addressed in the way that the child left home not to resort to extreme gestures. Attenuation recurring feelings that the child often feels – low self-esteem, guilt, abandonment anxiety, underestimation – becomes possible in an environment child participation in community life they live. In addition, it is a mistake for a parent to tell the child that leaves for his own good. Another tip for parents is to return home as often as possible. Every meeting is important for children.

Solutions are neither simple nor quick. The best thing here is that parents do everything possible to reunite the family, either at home or in the destination country. Romanians work for “to leave something behind,” forgetting that everything leaves behind are children.